If there is one thing that single men confide in me that is most important to them in a long-term partner, it is that she possesses a set of unique traits. Well, let’s face it, they are the ones that have to decide if they want to put-a-ring-on-it! Right? So to give you an idea of what they are talking about here is a list of unique traits:
- PERSONALITY PLUS
- COMFORTABLE IN HER OWN SKIN
- CONFIDENT IN HER SEXUALITY
A woman that is just sexy or just playful or just spontaneous would not be considered long-term relational. Not even for today’s average male. Why? There are a number of reasons, but the main reason is relationship lifestyles are very much different today than when your great grandfather courted your great grandmother and proposed marriage.
Back then a man who was ready to marry looked for a kind, genteel domestic type of female who was primarily raised to take care of a home and family. Well, I’m here to tell you that those days are long gone. Just being a nice woman who is warm, personable and understanding just isn’t enough anymore.
Times have changed, especially for women. No longer at home baking the bread, she’s out earning the bread. She’s career oriented and pop culture is constantly telling her that she can have it all and doesn’t need a man! So why should she bother being sexy, playful, feminine and spontaneous?
Not only that but today’s single woman thinks that just having a great successful career makes her fascinating enough. For a man, this is true, but not for a woman. The reason being is that women, in general, are naturally riveted by a man’s career so they assume that a guy will be enthralled by what she does. No, he’s more fascinated by the fact that you are female, period!
When I mention to single women how guys are looking these days for a woman who has special traits, they get real annoyed and inform me that the guy should accept her for the way she is and how wonderful she is as a person inside! Really?
Well, today’s single guy wants it all too which is why he’s waiting longer to marry. He’s holding out to find that one woman who possesses a set of unique traits because he wants diversity in his choice of a long-term partner. Men constantly complain how they are bored dating the same cookie-cutter, generic type of single, 21st century female. Ouch!
Consider the gorgeous female with a great figure and no special traits who relies solely on her looks to attract a potential mate. Men by nature are “transaction relational” and would not choose a long-term partner based solely on objective beauty. The few that do eventually regret their choice and end up divorced.
What does make a man decide quickly and without reservations who he wants for a mate? It is PERCEIVED BEAUTY! This is a woman with a combination of special traits that make her more interesting and dynamic. Sorry, but John Lennon’s, “All you need is Love”, doesn’t apply here.
An enduring relationship requires a lot more these days and every smart single woman looking to marry should know it. She should make herself as interesting and dynamic as she possibly can for that special man. Why? Well let’s just say that 50 – 60 years is one hell of a long time to be married to a boring person!