I’ve heard and read a million times, even from men who are dating and relationship experts, about women who are needy and clingy. Well, I’m here to enlighten you once and for all: there is no such female! It is not in a woman’s nature to be either needy or clingy. They are by nature bonders, period! Allow me to elaborate further.
The human female’s mind and body were specifically designed for two unique purposes: to bond and to procreate. This is why the female brain produces a neurochemical called oxytocin. This brain chemical is a natural bonding drug that makes her want to bond with her partner. Notice that I said, she wants to bond not need to bond.
Once a woman begins a physically intimate relationship with a man, her oxytocin levels rise dramatically. This rise in oxytocin makes her exclusive relationship ready in a heartbeat because her brain is signaling to her that it is now time to couple up and procreate.
In other words, she has both physically, through sex, and emotionally, through the cingulate gyrus (the emotive center of the brain) in the limbic system, bonded with her partner. Without sex there can be no procreation, therefore, the act of physical intimacy itself will biologically induce her to want to bond and then mate.
For the human female, sex and mating are intertwined. That is how her brain is hardwired. It doesn’t matter if she’s older and already had children, her brain will still tell her it’s time for her and her partner to get serious. She’s biologically designed that way.
A woman being needy and clingy is basically nothing more than a male perception. A man who is physically intimate with her will begin to notice her behavior change in several ways:
- She wants more emotional intimacy!
- She wants more time spent together!
- Her conversations shift to future plans!
- She wants to have “The Talk”!
Men are innately centered on their needs, including the need to be the pursuer or the one in control. Because of this fact, his perception is telling him that she’s being needy, yet, only men are needy. He is interpreting her want of an exclusive relationship before he’s ready or before he wants one, as her acting as the one who wants control. The truth is, women want to be pursued. Their curvy bodies were deliberately designed to entice any man into pursuing them. Women want to be romanced, period!
Yet, unlike a man who inherently needs physical companionship, women do not! The human female was totally designed to mate! If women intrinsically needed sex, there would be no such thing as a pickup artist, not to mention the famous pickup artists who make billions annually teaching men how to pick up women. Trust me, if women needed sex like men do, no one would know whose child was whose.
So regardless of where the relationship between a man and a woman happens to be at the time that physical intimacy is involved, the woman will automatically feel compelled by nature to bond and eventually want to mate. If any man thinks she’s being needy and clingy, so be it, but it is only her biology and innate nature at work.