Beware! Be very aware that in today’s social environments you could find yourself on an Instant Date!
Oh, my god! You didn’t know or weren’t even aware that you were doing the instant date thing? Maybe it’s because you don’t understand just how an instant date works? First, let me tell you that it can be worse than blind dating. The only thing you are blind to would be the fact that you are doing it in the first place. So just how does it happen? Glad you asked!
Let’s say it’s a Friday night and you decide to head out to meet up with your girlfriends at the local pub. Once there, you order yourself a dirty martini at the bar and then begin socializing with your friends. The night starts out slow with a few people you just might meet for the first time, but then towards the third hour, you meet this great guy. Oh, you’ve seen him there a few times before.
You start up a conversation and before you know it you find yourself attracted to the guy. He’s really nice to talk to and take up the rest of your night with. Though, before you leave you must give him your number and tell him it was great meeting him and you hope to see him again. No! That wasn’t the instant date. Not yet anyway.
For the rest of the week, you can’t think about anything but him. You keep hoping that he will call, but it doesn’t happen. What does happens is that when you return to the pub the following Friday, low and behold there he is talking to a few people you both know. You walk right up to him and begin where you left off the previous Friday when you first met. Of course, you order yourself a martini as you continue your evening together getting to know more about each other.
The night is over and you joke about how you two keep ending up together at the same pub. Once again, you say good night. The rest of the weekend and the following week you wait for his call. The next Friday you find yourself meeting up with your friends at the same pub. Well, guess what? There he is too! The night is once again spent with the two of you socializing together.
This meeting up with each other continues because you are going to this same pub every single Friday night. You soon get to the point where you can’t figure out why this guy just doesn’t ask you out. Duh! Ask you out? Why should he when he can just meet up with you at the pub? You are, my friend, INSTANT DATING!
The truth is today’s single woman is notorious for meeting up with a guy she’s really into at the same venue every weekend, but can’t figure out why the guy doesn’t ask her out on a real date. Well let’s define a real date, shall we?
For us women, a real date is more about being romanced. He picks you up at your place and opens the car door for you. Of course, you are dressed to the nine’s! He takes you to an elegant fine dining restaurant and orders you a filet mignon, cooked to perfection and glass of a rich, smooth, red Cabernet Sauvignon. While you pleasantly dine in the restaurant’s quiet and serene atmosphere, you spend the whole evening talking, getting to know each other. Right?
But wait! You are already spending the whole night talking when you meet up with him at your favorite venue every weekend night, so why should he ask you on a real date?
So how do you keep yourself from becoming an instant date and instead get him to ask you out on a real romantic date? Wait! Do you really need the answer to this question? Obviously, you do! Well, here it is, in a nutshell, DO NOT FREQUENT THE SAME VENUE EVERY FRIDAY NIGHT! Single guys are known to hang out at the same venue every Friday night. But you can’t do that!
When you meet a guy you really like in a social environment for the first time, you should only spend around 20 minutes tops talking to him while making sure to keep yourself intriguing and mysterious. Give him your number and then split. Leave the place and do not return there until after he’s called you and has taken you out on a real date.
If he hasn’t called within two weeks he most likely isn’t that interested in you, period. Stop making yourself an instant date. What woman in her right mind needs that happening in her single life! Certainly not you!