Let’s face it, today’s women have it all, can do it all, and single-handedly handle it all. This is why the 21st-century single lady doesn’t need a man and the phrase, itself, has become one of the most spoken phrases amongst single women.
To be sure, men and women are still getting engaged and getting married and non-married couples are living together in an exclusive relationship more than ever before. So why do single women everywhere proclaim on a relentless basis that they don’t need a man?
You have to first take a look at what women all have going for them today to even understand their insistence on existing in no man’s land.
Today’s adult female is:
- Highly Educated
- Financially Independent
- Can choose to be a Single Parent
- Owns her own Home and Business
- Makes her own Important Life Decisions, etc.
So what is left for a man to do or give to in a woman’s life? Well, how about giving her love and affection, treating her with respect, and simply running a few errands for her every now and then?
Sounds great and I do know a lot of men who do all that for the woman in their life, but it still doesn’t answer the question why women are going around proclaiming so proudly and assiduously that they don’t need a man.
The truth is the phrase, “I don’t need a man”, makes no sense at all. So why do highly educated women insist on saying it, if in fact, it makes no sense?
Well, here’s the answer: The human female is a master of indirect communication so you need to translate what it actually means when she says she doesn’t need a guy in her life.
Allow me to translate:
- pretty enough
- socially intelligent
- hot Stuff
- ready because I’m still in college
- finished with getting my career started
- ready right now to get involved with anyone
- settled enough yet as being a single mother
This is known as a defense ploy that single women use on themselves because they are listening to their inner dialogue constantly telling them they are not good enough for any man. It is sad but so true. To state that you don’t need a man is better than having to admit to oneself the reasons why you don’t have a man in your life. The reason being, they don’t believe they are worthy enough, period!
Every time I meet a single woman who is not in a relationship, that phrase within our conversation is mentioned time and time again. It makes no sense even though I know why they say it. As humans, we are at times vulnerable and need to rely on others, including a man. So when you hear a woman say she doesn’t need a man, what she is indirectly expressing is that she doesn’t believe she is worthy enough to have a man.