Would the lady rather be interviewed over coffee, or romanced under candlelight?
Let’s face it, dating isn’t what it used to be and it is getting to be almost intimating according to how the date itself is setup. A date where the lady is wined and dined seems to be less popular these days than meeting over a cup of coffee. How unromantic is that? Oh, I forgot, the lady might turn out to be the ex-wife of Frankenstein! What guy in his right mind would want to take a chance on wining and dining that?! Sorry, I meant her? She? It?
OK, I get it. It is the 21st century so dating has changed immensely. It is like the saying goes, out with the old and in with the new! The problem is though dating rituals have changed, human nature has not! It takes complete opposites to attract or at least create a strong attraction between a man and woman. As far as nature is concerned and regardless of cultural changes, nothing will ever change that.
What men fail to realize is that a woman has several natural behaviors that help stimulate her feelings of attraction for a man.
A woman is innately:
Bonder (naturally bonds to others)
Women are naturally changeable which means they change their minds as fast as they change their hair or outfits. They can also go from utilizing their female side to completely utilizing their male side depending on the situation. Anyone remember the Feminist Movement? Her emotions constantly dictate how she will feel during certain times and in any given atmosphere.
Not to mention that the human female will bond instantly with those she truly likes and feels comfortable being around. This, in fact, is the number one reason why when a woman never hears from the guy after the first date, she becomes perplexed. She had such a great time, liked her date a lot and felt there was some chemistry between them. What happened was that she bonded, he didn’t. Guys don’t bond and that is why it is easy for a guy to date a woman once and that’s it, good time or not.
So with all that said, let’s take a look at a few dating rituals and how it all relates to a woman’s nature. The resume/coffee date is the most popular and preferred date these days. Since it is a first meeting, it usually takes place at a coffee house where two strangers sit across a table and discuss as well as compare notes in what sounds like a job interview. Or at least a facsimile of an interview. Of course, the caffeine from 3 – 4 cups of coffee helps speed the conversation on as they both talk about themselves endlessly. It’s like speed dating only you’re high on caffeine while you remain in the same chair. Speed Dating? It is to laugh!!!
Several hours later the interview is through and they part company after first exchanging their contact information. The question remains, did either one get the job or more to the point, did chemistry develop between the two? Was it coffee, tea or me?
The truth is that rarely do coffee dates create chemistry between a man and a woman. Neither do activity first dates, which I like to refer to as Buddy Dating. It’s when a man and woman, dressed in sports clothing, participate in an activity like hiking, biking or even rock climbing. There may be an adrenaline rush happening, but I doubt it will be mixed with chemistry. Buddy Dating? It too is to laugh!!!
In all seriousness here let’s call a spade a spade. A date where a woman meets a guy for a cup of coffee, most likely means, is she desperate for a quickie or is she looking for an actual date in real time. An adrenaline rush date where you are out in the great outdoors alone together or even the less obvious like friends with benefits, buddy or booty call get-togethers all reek of male testosterone at its peak of conniving performance!
Certainly it had to be a guy who came up with the concept of speed dating! All these idea’s of creative dating in the 21st century, seem to refer, to the male concept of getting in and then get out!
So what does it take to create chemistry between a man and a woman? To answer that question, you first have to understand that though the human male represents the masculine, the human female should be representing the feminine. This means that a date requires that the woman should at least be coming from her feminine side and not her masculine side. A coffee date, activity date, or even a lunch date during a work week is when women are most likely utilizing their masculine side. Where’s the opposites in that?
The best date for a woman to represent her feminine side is when she is being wined and dined in an elegant, serene, romantic setting over a candlelit dinner. If the restaurant doesn’t provide a candle at the table, then bring one! Trust me, she will arrive dressed to the nines while displaying a little cleavage and some legs. She can’t help but feel feminine! Do you get the picture?
When a woman is fully utilizing her feminine side it is far easier to appeal to her emotions. When you can make her feel like a woman she will then become receptive to your masculine appeal. This in turn allows her to make you feel like a man. Before the night is over there certainly should be some chemistry happening along with a strong attraction. It’s not rocket science, it is Love Science! Now go make a reservation!