Why Physical Attraction is a Double-Edged Sword!
In today’s politically correct social culture there are very few dating and relationship experts who care to tackle this particular subject. Why? Well, for one thing, it is a very touchy one and is often met with considerable controversy. But for me, as someone who teaches in the field of science about human love, controversial or not, I believe it is a necessity.
When we meet a person for the first time there are things we notice about them that immediately give us clues as to who they are as an individual. For example, their choice of attire (unless it’s wash & wear which is generic), personal hygiene, physical health, body language and social mannerism.
Accept it or not, our appearance on the outside has just as much to say about us as an individual as the person we are on the inside. Being shallow simply has nothing to do with it. When you look at someone for the very first time you automatically form an opinion of how they appear to you. There are either positive or negative question’s that your thoughts automatically answer:
- Yes, this person is good-looking!
- I can see this person takes good care of their health and well-being!
- This is a well-groomed person!
- This individual takes pride in their appearance!
- This person is plain looking!
- This person is not healthy and is lazy about their well-being!
- This person is a sloppy dresser!
- This person could care less about their appearance!
Then the, oh so popular, universal sayings arise: LOOKS AREN’T EVERYTHING and LOVE IS BLIND.
Would you care to bet on that?!
Women are well-known for immediately taking note of a man’s visual personality when they first meet him, but what is most perplexing is how they automatically ignore their own visual personality. Why do they think their visual presence isn’t as important as a man’s? The answer is quite simple . . . FEMALE PERCEPTION!
A woman is first attracted to a man according to his lifestyle due to the fact that men are innately providers & protectors. His visual personality in many ways indicates his success in life. Yet, women, who are innately nurtures & caregivers, want to be liked and accepted solely for who they are as an individual and not for their personal appearance. This is why a woman takes her over-all appearance less seriously than she takes a man’s.
This in itself is a tremendous disadvantage for women, especially for today’s single women. Men are extremely visual beings! The first thing any man notices is a woman’s physical health and appearance. This tells him something about her as an individual not to mention as a desirable woman. For a man, a woman’s visual personality is what first ignites his attraction and creates a physical chemistry. Today’s women have to accept the fact their visual personality is just as important as a man’s, if not more important.
As human beings, a very big part of our nature is to seek out what first attracts us. Nature created opposites for a very good reason: ATTRACTION! There’s an old saying: “One man’s eye for beauty is another man’s eyesore”. Yet, a woman that takes care of her health and appearance is much more attractive to any and all men.
For a single man looking for a long-term partner, if he is thinking that the outer package isn’t so great, why should he bother getting to know the inner person? What, you think there is a prize inside like in a box of cracker jacks? Oh, there’s a prize alright! The bottom line is, women who don’t take care of their overall health and appearance often have issues from deep-seated insecurities to downright acute laziness.
America’s obesity epidemic alone has forced many single males to seek healthy feminine foreign women as their marriage partners. The problem is that a good majority of today’s single women have obesity issues! Hundreds of young salubrious single women from all over the world enter the United States each year. Yet, that isn’t the only problem single women in this country are facing these days.
Before WWII, it was one single female for every 35 – 45 single males. Today there is only one single male for every 60 – 75 single females and these numbers are about average from state to state. Add to that, social media, career relocation to foreign countries and business travel has offered the average single male plenty of opportunities to meet healthier foreign women. As you can see the competition for a long-term partner is now at a global level.
Nature gave the human female a curvy body, soft skin and silky hair, gleaming eyes and blushing cheeks with pinkish lips to make the human male hunger for that first kiss. Nature could care less if she sacrifices her personal time to do charity work or is the most honest, intelligent and kind-hearted female on the face of the earth. Nature is at work to encourage procreation not present a humanitarian award!
Part of the misconception about outer beauty comes from witnessing all around us and everywhere we go, couples who have been together for a while who have lost interest in taking care of their physical being and how they appear to their partner. They no longer feel a need to make an effort to be attractive to their partner since they have been in a relationship for so long. This in itself, perpetuates the belief that physical good health and a well-groomed appearance does not actually matter. It is sad but is none-the-less a fact.
The first step a woman should consider is her overall health. Exercise and proper nutrition play a vital role in a woman’s physical health. As for her overall appearance, a woman should wear female attire that shows her feminine curves and legs. Her mannerism should be femininely polite with an air of mystery. Then what any woman’s visual personality will say about her is . . . awesome!
There’s a reason why shops have eye-catching window displays, architects design impressive buildings with inviting decorative doors and beauty, itself, is universally known as an art form to be looked at and admired. The reason is simple, the need for attraction! Visual Attraction is a very important part of human nature and human love.