The biggest issue now when it comes to dating is who pays the bill? It is a question that shouldn’t be a question let alone an issue in the first place. Why? Well, it’s obvious who pays – it’s the person who asked. Dating hasn’t changed all that much!
Granted, first time meeting someone could be over a cup of coffee, but that’s not an actual date. That’s simply getting together for the first time to discover whether you want to start dating each other. Of course, this is due to the popularity of dating & social media sites.
Today’s young singles are meeting each other on non-dates. Popular dating apps like Tinder where you swipe left or right claim success in meaningful connections. The fact is dating apps such as Tinder are not actually for serious dating as they are for non-dates like hanging out, meeting up and hookups! Non-dates are FREE get-togethers! Ask any college student!
So, the confusion as to who pays has made its way into an actual real date between two mature individuals looking for a serious connection. A real date is when you spend scheduled times together to get to know one another and hopefully start a relationship.
Yet, regardless of what era or new digital dating innovation, if it is serious dating then the MAN leads the courting process because he’s usually the one who initiates the date, so he is the one who pays for the date. Even if his date isn’t feeling it, so be it, the MAN still pays. Dating is a numbers game and that includes even a blind date with no exception.
There are women who prefer to pay for half or the complete bill because they don’t want to feel obligated in any way. Of course, these are also the same women who apologize for the air they breathe. The truth is no woman on a date with a man is obligated to give anything except her time and attention. If the guy is expecting more, that’s his problem, not hers!
To agree to pay for half or the whole bill because a guy asked a woman out because he’s interested in her, yet, she discovers during fifteen to twenty minutes into the date that she’s not that interested in him, is ridiculous. It is not equality that’s the issue here, but the fact that the woman devalues herself. If she doesn’t believe she is worth a steak and a glass of wine, then he should feel lucky that she’s not that interested in him.
When a woman asks a man out, then she certainly has the right to pay the bill. This is especially a nice thing to do if the man has taken her out several previous times and she wants to express her gratitude.
There are guys who prefer to split the bill because they have a fear of being used as a FREE MEAL TICKET, even if they initiated the date. Well, sorry guys, but that’s a risk you take when you ask a woman out that you don’t know. There are no guarantees on whether your date is into you are just into the meal. If any guy is in fear of being used, he should think about how a woman feels when a guy asks her out because he’s only interested in her for sex!
For women, who are by nature bonding emotional beings, dating is a primary way for them to find a mate. If a guy is only inviting a woman to his place to chill or inviting her to just hang out with him, he’s not putting in much EFFORT. There are guys who prefer the first date to be a ‘FREE DATE’ where they invite the woman to their place. It is a way to test the woman to see if she’s the type where anything goes or not. If she’s the anything goes type then he saved himself time and money. More women fall for this free get-together crap and then wonder why the guy doesn’t take her seriously.
When a man is truly interested in the woman he is dating, he will put in the effort necessary to court her properly. That takes time, money and planning to progress to something more meaningful. In fact, it is a strong indication that the guy is truly interested in her.
There has also been much speculation that the dinner date has gone by the wayside. It’s no wonder with all the non-dating & free get-togethers happening via digital apps. But the reality is dinner dating is just as popular as it ever was before. What has changed is that we now have so many different types of restaurants with families eating out that a dinner date is in a non-romantic setting. It’s the romantic ambiance that has gone by the wayside, not going out to dinner.
Dating can be the beginning of many things to two people who want to connect, but it has its limitations too. When a man initiates an interest in a woman he leads the courting process that includes monetary spending. If he’s not up to the monetary responsibility or the woman in question feels the need to participate monetarily then it’s not a real date, it’s a non-date, a free date or better yet, an asinine date.
To sum it up: If it’s a non-date, each usually pays for their own expense. If it’s a real date, then the one who asked the other one out, pays. If it’s a hookup as one guy boasting, explained to me, “It’s what you call a free, Pig in a Blanket!” Seriously, it is just another way women devalue themselves.